My daughter is dating an older man

No, what would be running through my head would be the following: You can’t say that the relationship is wrong, because it’s not categorically wrong.Adults make their own decisions about their romantic lives.I told her that had to say something about his motives, personality, etc., but of course she didn’t see this as a red flag, but was instead flattered that someone who could date anyone his age or older, chose to date her.

And regardless of whether you’re your daughter’s mother or father, I don’t like the suggestions that your feelings have to do primarily with jealousy.

Many parents are capable of putting their parenting before their ego and concerns over their own inadequacies.

Most of the teenage girls I work with who are dating older men are seeking something they feel like they aren’t getting from home, and while it may seem impossible to please your ever changing and complex teenager, try to talk with her, listen to and understand her.

Otherwise, she will search for and find someone or something else to attach herself too.

Having an older boyfriend also becomes a status symbol, a way for the teenage girl to say that she is already grown-up and part of the adult world. Because of this, it may make it easier for her to start neglecting things like her peers and school work.

After all, why should she worry about passing a chemistry test when her boyfriend is worried about paying his rent or losing his job.There are not only psychological risks involved with dating an older man and trying to fit into an adult world precociously, there are also dangers of being exposed to drugs, alcohol, abuse, and an increase rate of sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.Young teenage girls who contract sexually transmitted diseases often get them from older boyfriends.If they were good, she was happy, going to class, doing good.If he was ignoring her, she was depressed, missing class, consumed with anxiety.During the teenage years, young people are trying to come into their own and often rebel against their parents and other adults, which is why they often chose friends and relationships that their parents disapprove of, including dating older men.

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