Dating other people break
“Falling in love presents very much like an addictive process,” he told me.“You have this drive to get that fix in the form of being around the person that you care about.” So my breakup was a cocaine withdrawal? “We have this pervasive idea that, ‘oh, it’s just a breakup, it’s not that big of a deal,’” he said.
How dare something end that was so promising and beautiful?
But most importantly, how dare I — an outspoken feminist, constantly touting women’s independence, glory, power, resilience — betray women by behaving like my life was over because of something as trivial as a breakup? I had lost a man, a friend, a partner, but I hadn’t lost myself.
Now I went to spin classes, barre classes, and a gym boot camp.
I met with a personal trainer and planned out a way to reach my fitness goals. But the trainers at the gym recognize me, and a few even know me by name. Downsides: If you choose to use food as a means to cope with a breakup, do so with a friend.
I went clubbing for the first time since I started seeing my ex. I basked in new people, and found myself feeling more and more at home in my own skin.
Downsides: During the beginning of the breakup, accepting these invitations probably won’t feel genuine. Going to the farmers market and creating a treat-myself food mentality was delightful.
It allowed me to recognize the way I was hurting without indulging in it. I left the studio feeling powerful, calm, and whole.
Even if the feeling only lasted for five minutes, those five minutes were beautiful.
So I embarked on a quest to reclaim myself, to turn this breakup into an opportunity for renewal and self-discovery, rather than an excuse to feel sorry for myself.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating